5 Things Sociopaths and Narcissists Say to Make You Feel Crazy
 When you hear the word “psychopath”, you might think of Hannibal 
Lecter or Ted Bundy, but most psychopaths are actually non-violent and 
non-incarcerated members of society. In fact, there’s a good chance 
they’ll seem exceptionally altruistic and innocent to the average 
onlooker.
As described in the Psychopath Free book, psychopaths 
are first and foremost social predators. With no conscience, they’re 
able to use charm and manipulation to get what they want from 
others—whether it be families, friendships, relationships, cults, the 
workplace, or even politics. The bottom line is, they modify their 
personalities to become exactly the person they think you want them to 
be. And they’re good at it.
But when they no longer need anything 
from you, that’s when the crazy-making behavior begins. Here are some 
common phrases you’ll hear from a psychopath who’s trying to make you 
doubt your sanity:
-  “I hate drama.”
And
 yet, you’ll soon come to discover there’s more drama surrounding them 
than anyone you’ve ever known. Psychopaths will first idealize you above
 everyone else, praising you for your perfect easy-going nature. But 
because they are perpetually bored, this never lasts long. They are 
pathological liars, serial cheaters, and eternal victims. Before long, 
these qualities inevitably start to surface and cause you overwhelming 
confusion. Any time you mention your concerns or frustration, they’ll 
declare their hatred of drama and make you feel bad for reacting to 
their horrible behavior (instead of addressing the behavior itself).
-  “You over-analyze everything.”
Of
 course there are people who DO read too much into situations. The 
difference with psychopaths is that you’ll always discover you were 
correct in retrospect. They intentionally do things to make you feel 
on-edge or paranoid, like flirt with a once-denounced ex over social 
media for the whole world to see. When you question them, they accuse 
you of over-analyzing the situation. But then a month later, you 
discover they were actually cheating with that person. Psychopaths want 
you to doubt your intuition by making you feel like a crazy detective, 
constantly planting hints to make you feel anxious and then blaming you 
for having that anxiety.
-  “You’re so sensitive.”
Psychopaths
 manufacture emotions in others—it’s what they do. After once showering 
you with 24/7 praise and flattery, they’ll ignore you for days on end 
and wait for you to react. When you finally do, they’ll accuse you of 
being sensitive or needy. They’ll insult, belittle, and criticize you 
(usually in a teasing/joking demeanor), pushing your boundaries until 
you finally speak up. Then they use your manufactured reactions to make 
you seem crazy. Within weeks, psychopaths can turn an exceptionally 
easy-going person into an unrecognizable mess of insecurities and 
self-doubt.
-  “You misunderstood me.”
Sure,
 healthy couples have misunderstandings and miscommunications all the 
time. But with psychopaths, they’ll intentionally say things they know 
will provoke you. Then when you react, they’ll turn it around on you and
 blame you for misunderstanding. Oftentimes, they’ll even deny that they
 ever said it. This is called gaslighting—blatantly doing or saying 
something, and then blaming you for misinterpreting it (or denying that 
it even took place). The fact is, you understood what they said 
perfectly fine. They’re just trying to make you doubt your sanity.
-  “You’re crazy / bipolar / jealous / bitter / in love with me.”
The
 name-calling usually starts when things are going downhill fast. 
According to a psychopath, all of their ex lovers, colleagues, and 
friends are crazy, bipolar, jealous, bitter, or in love with them. This 
becomes very confusing when they start reaching out to those very same 
people they once denounced to you, using them to triangulate and cause 
chaos (making the psychopath appear in high-demand at all times). Then 
they toss you in that very same “crazy” bucket, continuing their 
never-ending cycle of idealizing and devaluing anyone unfortunate enough
 to cross their path.
The only way out is to go No Contact. This 
means no texts, calls, emails, or even Facebook friendships. Otherwise 
you can be guaranteed that they’ll do anything and everything in their 
power to make you feel crazy, unless you don't make yourself a target. Think to make interesting conversation to lighten their mood then walk away. If your wise, then you can opt for no communication with them. That is all there is to do as you think of a fireman, doing his or her job not actually talking. Thats how that is but there is less chance to talk if you ignore calls, ignore texts, ignore points they make and just treat them as if not there.
The good news is, when a psychopath tries 
to make you doubt your intuition, it means your intuition was causing 
them trouble. Psychopaths seek to psychologically destroy anyone who 
might threaten their illusion of normalcy to the world. So when they 
begin playing mind games with you, it’s actually a strange indirect 
tribute to your ability to notice that something was “off” about them. So you should feel good about it, as you think you feel good you are more aware of your options that's all there is to this.
This is what they do:
1. THEY REFUSE RESPONSIBILITY.
It’s not their fault. 
Not EVER. It’s always your fault. His fault. Her fault. To a narcissist,
 it’s not their fault they hurt you, it’s your fault for being 
hurt-able. If your feelings are hurt, it’s not their fault; it’s your 
fault – for having feelings. (You may be told that you’re “choosing” to 
feel bad about the hurtful things they’ve done, and that it’s the wrong 
“choice”.) If caught doing something insensitive or selfish, they will 
tell you they “had to” do it because of someone or something else. If 
you imply that anything is their responsibility, they give you excuses 
and lies, and often, if those fail to work, they will finally make it 
clear that the bottom line is they simply don’t care because they don’t 
have to, and the fact that you care is just unnecessary or wrong. From 
their perspective, you shouldn’t care — you should get it right like 
they do, and be more like they are. Uncaring.
2. THEY LIE.
Narcissists lie to make
 themselves look good. They lie to get out of emotional responsibility. 
They lie to manipulate. They lie to gain influence. They lie out of 
habit. Life is a game to narcissists – a game they have to think they’re
 winning – and truth is one casualty in their game plan. The only time a
 narcissist has any interest in telling the truth is when it will serve 
them or cost them nothing to do so. The rest of the time, they don’t 
consider it necessary or important to be all that honest. Honesty can 
impede their self-gratification and compromise their powerful persona, 
and they don’t like that. To narcissists the truth is frequently 
“flexible” and optional. There’s no such thing as an honest narcissist.
3. THEY LOOK DOWN ON YOU.
Narcissists have to 
make themselves feel bigger by convincing themselves others are smaller 
by comparison. They’re no strangers to being condescending, snobby, 
clique-ish, elitist and superior; however, they may be very good at 
hiding their disdain to prevent a loss of popularity, which narcissists 
know brings them power. Narcissists with money look down on the working 
class. Narcissists in the working class look down on those with more 
money. Educated narcissists dismiss the opinions of those who have no 
degree. Narcissists with no degree claim educated people don’t actually 
know anything. Whatever narcissists HAVE (or think they have) is what 
they use to look down on others WITH. No-one else’s background, 
appearance, values, political persuasion, school, preferences, religion,
 way of life, profession or opinions are ever any good or worthy of 
their respect unless they themselves value and/or possess the same. If 
you think or choose differently from a narcissist, you’re “wrong”, and 
they’re “right”.
4. THEY’RE TWO-FACED.
Narcissists literally 
have two faces — their real face and their stage face. And neither is 
anything like the other. Which one you see will depend on how long 
you’ve known them. Narcissists can be very charming and know how to gain
 favor. Anyone who doesn’t know a narcissist well will tell you the 
narcissist is one of the greatest people they’ve ever met! They believe 
this is one of the most intelligent, kindest, most interesting, funny, 
agreeable, most attractive, talented or accomplished people ever. They 
may wish they themselves had it so “together” or were so popular. 
However, anyone who knows that same narcissist better (family members, 
longtime coworkers, etc) will tell you the narcissist is one of the most
 horribly frustrating and toxic people they know, and the mere mention 
of their name makes them feel uneasy, angry, frustrated or otherwise 
unhappy. Being the only one who is experiencing a narcissist’s real 
face, while all other family members or coworkers can still only see the
 narcissist’s stage face is a very lonely, painful and frustrating place
 to be. Thankfully, the number of people who can see through the facade 
tends to increase with time.
5. THEY’RE VINDICTIVE.
If you dare to question
 a narcissist or request things like healthy boundaries and honesty, 
you’re going to become public enemy number one. The “Mr. or Ms. 
Wonderful” mask immediately comes off, and there is no level they will 
not stoop to in order to “punish” you. They have myriad ways of 
attempting this; some are covert, and some are open and obvious. The 
narcissist has a seemingly inexhaustible obsession for making people who
 cross them “pay”. Once they set their sights on you, you’re a permanent
 enemy, and their seething spite will feel as intense years down the 
road as it did when it first began. The length of time they can keep up 
the full intensity of their hatred for you and their campaign to exact 
revenge is absolutely dumbfounding to non-narcissistic people.
6.THEY PROJECT PSYCHOLOGICALLY.
Many mentally 
disordered individuals project frequently. Narcissists, however, are 
some of the most actively and severely projecting people encountered. 
Ever full of accusations and criticisms, the most crazy-making thing 
about most of the narcissist’s claims is that YOU are doing exactly what
 THEY are doing. (Projection.) Have they just lied to you? Well, you’re 
about to be called dishonest. Are they cheating you out of an 
opportunity? You’re going to get the finger pointed at you for being 
sneaky. And you can’t say a word to them about something hurtful they 
have done, because that makes you an abuser – of them. You can’t give 
them anything but glowing feedback without their raging at you, but 
you’ll be the one constantly criticized severely and then called 
freakishly oversensitive if you show any feelings about it. And if they 
say so, it’s law — you don’t know what you’re talking about.
7. THEY SMEAR PEOPLE WHO OPPOSE THEM.
Narcissists are 
allergic to healthy boundaries and fairness. If you question the 
insensitive things they do or put any limits whatsoever on their bad 
behavior, you will be targeted for social, professional, or personal 
obliteration. Whatever narcissists perceive to be your psychological or 
situational “weak spots” will be their prime targets. For instance, if 
the narcissist knows that your greatest fear is social ridicule, that 
will be the main focus of the smear campaign. If he or she knows that 
recently, you made a mistake for which you feel guilty, that will be 
used against you. Narcissists know that the more effectively they can 
pinpoint your insecurities or flaws, the more successful they will be in
 eroding your confidence and your influence. And if they manage to do 
that, they stand a good chance of getting back the power they planned to
 do whatever they pleased with before you “got in their way”.